The Key to Achieving Goals that Matters to You
Become More Truthful
Truth is probably the most basic principle you need to study before anything else.
It allows you to see where you currently are and most importantly, help you to be clear in your goal-setting.
This truth is all about you.
How is your job doing right now?
Are you satisfied with your job?
Are you happy in your relationship with your girlfriend?
Are you overweight at this point of time?
Answering these questions will help you to explore more about yourself. It is really about finding out where the point A’s are so that you can start to direct them to point B’s.
Although this principle sounds easy to apply, it can be difficult to find out the truth sometimes. You may deny some of the tough questions. Sometimes you think your relationship is on the right track even you have the sense of loneliness.
You ignore the fact that you are overweight and you do not even bother to cut down on meals with excessive fats.
Hence, you really need to be honest to yourself if you are to make major improvements in your life.
Here are some of the components of truths:
How you perceive certain things will affect how you react to it. If you perceive that your business needs more leads, then you will plan for marketing strategies that will bring in qualified business leads. If you finally realize that you are distant from your children, you will start to panic and make every effort you can to build close relationship with them once again.
Prediction often comes from the experiences we had in the past. Why you would make such prediction? It is because based on your past experience, the similar incident occurred that is why you predict the outcome to be so.
Although clarity is important in decision making, there is really no such thing as total accuracy. You will never know if the career you choose will turn out to be the best. You will never guarantee a marriage when you step into a relationship. The best way is still to accept mistakes and minimize risks the next time you journey.
You need to accept the truths of your current situations, no matter how good or bad it is. Accept that your company is losing money. Accept that your spouse is the best wife you can ever have.
Learn more about yourself by being aware of different areas of your life. This includes your strengths, weaknesses, habits, knowledge, desires, emotions and states of mind. Not only that we want good things in our lives but sometimes, we also tend to love certain things that will do harm to us, like sleeping too much, eat too much, have sex and laziness.
The Hindrances to Truths
Advertisements are hunting for your commitment so that they can generate revenues from you. As a result, they are trying all sorts of ways to convince you and targeting at your desires and weaknesses. For example, the beer ads often portraits the ability to attract women with their beers but in reality, this is not the case. So, in this case, fantasy is seen much bigger than the truth.
The people around you including your family, relatives, friends or superiors may stop you from seeing the truths. This may due to their ability to impart the wrong values into your life.
False beliefs may affect you from being truthful. Some violent husbands use the excuse of being stressful at work to beat their wives at home. How can they possibly justify they are not doing anything wrong?
When you have strong emotions, they will usually corrupt your way to perceive the reality truthfully. Fear, anger, guilt, shame and frustrations are some of the examples.
This is probably one of the hardest ways to accept reality. Do smokers know taking an extra cigarette is doing them no good? Of course they do! Why are they still smoking then? It is their addiction that stops them from facing the truth.
When you choose not to grow up and ignore the reality of your life, this behavior carries a degree of immaturity. Mature people know that they always have rooms for improvement.
This occurs when the person choose to lie in order to save himself. For example, you may lie to your boss in order to get away with the mistakes you have done.
How to Become More Truthful?
You need to sit down and assess different areas of your life. For example, how do you rate your health and fitness? How about mental development and habits? Is your business making money? How well do you handle your emotions? Rank each of them from 1 – 10, being 1 the weakest and 10 the strongest.
Writing a journal can be very powerful. As you write down your feelings, emotions and thoughts on your personal development process, you will see the truths more clearly. The journey you keep will also remind you how well you have done in the past. If you can do it in the past, you can do it at present.
This can be difficult, but amazingly powerful. Remember the times you keep procrastinating to start your big project simply because of the Internet or TV? You want to watch another extra 1 hour in front of the TV before you start work. Another 10 minutes on Facebook or Twitter before you write your report. So if you can make it a habit to fast some of this media, you will be amazed with the results you are going to produce.