Choosing a meeting place – not his/her home/high-risk location for suicide
Choosing a right meeting place for a breakup is important because you can prevent making the breakup turn ugly. Besides, if the breakup is carried out amicably, you can be free from the relationship, leaving your ex totally. Remember, it is also important to breakup in person and face to face.
Choose a neutral place. Do not ask for a breakup in your house, or in your partner’s house. This is firstly unfair to either person, and secondly, you will still see pictures or things both of you shared which will make it hard for you to stick with your decision.
It is best to choose a location where family or friends are around. If your partner cannot control his/her emotions and start showing aggressiveness, or both of you start to engage in heated arguments, people around may help to calm the situation.
Avoid high-risk location as it has the potential for suicide. Avoid breaking up with your partner at tall buildings, railway stations or even in the kitchen where knives are convenient to get to.
One example of an ideal location would be the park, where it is comfortable for both of you to express feelings, and you can also walk while you discuss the matter.
Do not breakup in restaurants. There are many observers and witnesses in a restaurant. It will be embarrassing and disrespectful for him/her if your partner gets very emotional and drama takes place.
Do not breakup in classrooms, especially for schooling teenagers or college students. You or your partner may endure humiliation from the classmates. As internet is accessible for all, some classmates may make fun and post videos or pictures of it online, making the whole incident seems uglier. This will cause pressure and stress for both of you.
Choosing the right time – definitely not valentine’s day/ his or her birthday
Choosing the right time to raise an issue on a breakup with your partner is an ideal move to let the relationship end smoothly.
Choosing the right time meaning does not include breaking up on Valentine’s Day, his/her birthday, holiday seasons, etc.
Occasions such as when your partner is having an upcoming exam, interviews, at work, etc. are also not the right time to initiate a break up.
Choose the Right Time: Why Avoid Special Occasions and Holidays
It will be hard for your partner to recover. If you put yourself in your partner’s shoes, consider how you would feel when you experience the same heartbreak every year just because your partner breaks up with you on your birthday or Valentine’s Day. It will bring back the bad memories.
All that is left is emptiness and loneliness. If your partner loves you more than, he/she will feel a sense of belonging and connection to you. If you choose to leave him/her on holiday seasons like Christmas, you left him/her feeling alone every holiday, especially because after breaking up you will no longer be with him/her anymore.
It affects your partner’s emotions during his/her life-changing moments. These big moments could be your partner’s interview, work promotions, upcoming exam, a death or sickness in his/her family, etc. Do not be mean; bear with your partner for a longer period until these moments are over.
Care for him/her at least for this duration one last time.
You may get a negative response from your request about the break up. Either you choose to breakup before or during these occasions or you wait for a suitable time to do so, and even then your partner may object to your request, or act aggressively, yell, cry loudly or more. This may contribute to you feeling guilty and choosing not to leave.