Do you find yourself constantly comparingyour life with others?
If you’re avidly checking up on old classmates,
your ex or even your friends on Instagram
or Facebook, let’s be real here,
are you really just curious or does it come from a dark place
of self-doubt?
It’s normal to get insecure every once in a while,
but when it’s on overdrive, it can
destroy you.
Here are”10 signs Insecurity’s are ruiningyour life”.
1: You’re a perfectionist.
Are you a straight-A student,
president of your school’s debate Club, juggling three
other extracurricular activities and still make time to hit the gym,
eat kale and finish
that extra credit assignment?
On paper, you look polished, dedicated andmore than capable.
But if you’re only doing
all these tasks to maintain your image more
than as an act of fulfillment, it prevents
yourself from living honestly.
2: You’re highly-competitive.
When people are insecure, they have a tendencyto one-up others.
It’s hard for them to be happy
for other people’s success when it makes them feel inferior,
so they try to make up for it and treat everything
like one big competition.
Step down from the social ladder,
practice gratitude and appreciate other people’s accomplishments
the same way you appreciate your own.
3: You boast about your accomplishments.
It’s normal to brag when you go in
for a job interview, but if you’re always trying to
impress others with your certifications,
the clothes that you wear or the car that you drive,
something’s not right.
Your success should speak for itself. Remember,
you’re not what you say, you’rewhat you do.
4: You get offended easily.
Do you take things personally,
even if the other person was just providing constructive
feedback?
It’s okay to be sensitive,
but when you’re always quick to put your walls up, it makes
it hard for people to help you or even enjoy being
around you for that matter.
5: You also offend others.
It’s one thing to feel attacked,
but it’s another thing to do the attacking.
Have you been lashing out at others or been putting them down?
If this is what you resort to in order to feel superior,
you’re only being rude and
unapproachable.
6: You avoid commitment.
Insecure people have a habit of ruining perfectly good relationships with others.
If you’ve been keeping someone at arm’s lengthor avoiding the”what are we” conversation,
you’re not just signing up for miscommunication,
you’re hurting someone who deserves a straightforward
answer.
On the contrary, you may also depend on your partner too much;
wanting to feel desired
but refusing to commit.
7:You feel a need to please others.
Are you quick to help others before putting your own health first?
There’s a fine line between being kind andoverextending yourself.
Insecurity often causes the individual to feel
as though their lives do not belong to them;
consequently, they may lose themselves further by fulfilling other people’s happiness.
This can easily cause you to feel resentment. Remember,
you have more control than you think.
8:You live on social media more than in thepresent.
Taking photos so you can look back on them one day is great,
but are you constantly updating
your Instagram instead of living in the moment?
When you’re preoccupied with your online reputation,
how many Likes you get and being in the spotlight,
you grow dependent on being noticed and seekvalidation from others.
9: You constantly think about what you don’thave.
When your insecurities build up over time,
you may be prone to developing anxiety and
depression.
Telling yourself you’re not good enough
can cause you to believe you’re not worthy of
having friends, so you begin to retreat,
which is a common symptom of these mental disorders.
And 10: You run away from your potential.
Do you live more in your imagination thanin reality?
Insecurity has a habit of robbing us of our opportunities to grow.
You might have talents,
brains and skills to achieve your dreams, but what holds you
back are your fears.
Instead of moving past the fear of failure,
you might just share your ideas with people
to get some sort of praise,
but they’ll never get to see you actualize them.
What insecurities are you struggling withright now?