Marriage can be a beautiful thing but incorporating hard skills into a new marriage isn’t something that everyone wants to do.
However, you must do this in order to make sure the marriage progresses. If you don’t, the marriage will be doomed and you’ll practically have nothing to work with.
Remember that Earth was created for humans to interact with each other and most of our life revolves around family memories. This is absolutely precious to us.
A family should always come first instead of going out with friends, working too much, or stressing over small things that do not have any direction towards the relationship.
Take it slow and enjoy your time. Always be firm with your partner by incorporating hard skills into the relationship.
Here are a few you’ll want to learn about:
Whenever the two of you want to go eat out, it is a constant battle. For example, he enjoys eating food from South America while you only like to eat sushi. He absolutely hates sushi and anything with fish or rice with soy sauce isn’t something he would like to eat. This leaves you feeling distressed when it’s finally time to eat out.
How about going to two different restaurants to get what both of you want? You can order take out and go eat it at home, or plan a romantic dinner at the park. If you want to eat at a real restaurant though, just bring your food with you that you bought from the other restaurant. The two of you will be happy and won’t argue anymore with this type of technique. As you can see, problem-solving in a marriage is very important.
Put your spouse first
This is probably the most difficult thing to do since most of us are generally selfish beings. However, if you love your spouse – you should do this for them. Find out what they want.
You can always make room for your needs on a different day. If they are feeling stressed, sad, or angry – talk with them. Ask your spouse if you can do anything to make he/she feel better. They will start to develop more respect toward you.
Be a forgiver
Many times in relationships, the wife or husband does something wrong that upsets the others. This leaves feelings of disappointment, anger, despair or even sadness.
Hold your feelings back and talk to them about why they did what they did. If it is an issue with cheating, you’ll need to know why they did this to you. Many times when people cheat, their spouse is not giving them what they need.
The most apparent reason is for lack of intimacy or lack of emotions. People will have an emotional or physical affair, depending on what problems are within the marriage. Instead of getting upset, just let them know how hurt you are and you want to make it work. Give them at least one more chance.
The benefits of marriage survival
Surviving marriage has great benefits for couples. Some of them include growing as a person, become more loving, being able to express your issues with your other half, and even becoming financially stable with the two of you working.
Marriage vows entail being together forever and you should be there for your spouse at all times. By doing so, you will become a mentally healthy person and will also help them as well.
Kids can greatly benefit from your marriage as we all know what anger does to kids when their parents experience divorce. Do yourself a favour and don’t let them go through this. Taking your time to make it work is the best thing for your future. Don’t give up!
Here are a few benefits of marriage survival below:
Being happy in life
When you are with someone you truly love, you’ll become a happier person in life. After all, they are there to share laughter with you, cheer you up, or accompany you in times of sadness.
If you are going for frequent hospital visits for cancer, you might feel anxiety but if your other half is there to support you-you will have a much better day. This is just one example of what we are talking about. By having a partner, you won’t go through certain situations alone. Unfortunately, some people who are widowed or recently divorced become bitter and uncaring towards others.
Protecting your children
By staying in your marriage, you are protecting your children. For example, many girls who do not have fathers will most likely become pregnant at a young age or fall into a rebellious attitude which could result in drug use or drinking. A father is there to provide love, discipline, and protection to anything that could harm his daughter.
Also, some kids will develop depression after seeing their parents split up. Our kids are incredibly precious and you’ll want to make sure they are okay. Seeing a kid grow up with sadness in their heart is something that could very well tear a parent apart.
Most of the time, we would do anything for our kids to be happy. There is a greater chance of this if the children have seen their parents together for a long time. It may be a confusing and sad year for them. It doesn’t last for a year but can scar a child in life.
Become financially stable
Usually, it takes two people to support a household. If you happen to have kids, this makes matters worse. A single mother working one job may not be able to make it through because of the bills, the cost of a child, and surprise hospital visits. She might even get evicted from the home because of falling behind.
However, with two people working – you will become financially stable. As long as the other person and yourself handle money well and take care of bills like you should, the two of you will be fine.
Make sure your partner doesn’t have a gambling problem and always look over your bank account statements to see what’s going on. You never know when money could “disappear”. This could be from identity theft or your spouse may be taking money from you for their poor spending habits. Sharing a bank account together should only be done once you have been together after a few years and trust them.
Here are the marriage secrets and tips for a successful marriage for newly-weds.
Offering advice to your partner in times of stress or problems is a great way to make the marriage really work. Often, they won’t take out their problems on you. Instead, they’ll feel the need to open their heart and talk about the problems. If you can offer your spouse advice, they’ll be grateful that they are with you.
Don’t know how to give advice? No problem. You can always give them a backrub and just hold them. Ask them more questions about the issue to make it look like you are really interested in the problems they are going through. Most men don’t want to hear every detail of their spouse’s day. A few details are fine but when you over-do it, they can become overwhelmed and won’t know what to say.
Being devoted to your partner means seeing them on a regular basis, making date nights happen, and spending time no matter how busy you are. If you have a small window to be with them on your day off, then go for it! If your love is in the hospital and hasn’t been able to walk for a month, visit them often.
Bring him/her flowers and tell them how much you love them. Showing your devotion will have them realize how much you care for them and they’ll develop a strong bond with you. These types of relationships will blossom into something more and they tend to last for years at a time.
If you are someone who is already honest, this may come easy for you. Did you have a wild party at home and all your buddies decided it would be funny to draw on your white wall? You had no idea this had happened, even when you got home. Your husband told you that your son was the one who drew on the walls.
However, your son was at the party and taking pictures on his toy camera. Keep in mind, this camera actually processes films for kids. After finding all the pictures, you feel disappointed in what your husband did. As you can see here, being honest causes less problems in the relationship – even if it was your fault. If you cannot trust someone in the relationship, you will always be second guessing their actions in your mind.
This is obviously not very healthy for you or your partner. You don’t want to accuse them of doing something wrong. Maybe they never did anything wrong and you are the one who owes them the apology. See what happens when honesty isn’t within the relationship? It just makes it worse.
Did you know that intimacy and love goes together? While some woman might not think this, men will consider intimacy in the bed as a form of love. They believe it is sexually healing. Most men become closer to their wives after making love. Also, for woman, foreplay is extremely important.
Men need to know this too. If you rush this with your wife, she may feel that you do not love or appreciate her body. Take your time and have fun. You’ll enjoy the experience more.
Laughing with your partner is fun and even invites you both to “play” together. Remember the time when you pushed your partner in the pool when he was wearing all his clothes? He wasn’t happy at the time but the both of you laughed about it later. The pictures you took of him with his shocked expression while falling as simply hilarious. He couldn’t help but laugh at everything that had happened.
Giving each other tickles and even making fun of one another is always a great way to put a smile on your face. Every time the two of you laugh, you are creating memories that will last a lifetime. By laughing, you are pushing away anything in your life that is bad. Laughter is a form of healing as well.
Being a good parent to your children is very important. The way you treat your children also affects your spouse. If you are a mother who is very stressed because your kids do not listen to you, there is a good chance you yell at the kids every once and awhile. Your husband frowns upon this as he is a very calm and understanding man. Try to analyze to see what he does when the kids are acting up. Learn from him or learn from books on parenting. The way you parent your children will affect them for the rest of your life and believe it or not – you affect those around you in a chain reaction.
The permanent solutions for marriage problems
In order to find permanent solutions for your marriage, you will need to start doing some problem solving. There should be a solution for every problem in marriage such as money issues, infidelity, parenting issues and so forth.
Here are some permanent solutions to help you survive the marriage:
Concentrate on yourself
Believe it or not but this tactic works. Ask your partner what aggravates them when it comes to you and work on that attribute of yourself. If he/she say’s you are too bossy, try calming down. Do some mind-clearing exercises and learn how to do things on your own. By doing this, you are setting yourself up for a better relationship. You won’t rely on what he/she does and can get most of the stuff done.
Don’t expect too much
When you expect too much from your spouse, they will become miserable in the relationship. It is possible they will feel resentful toward you and this may result in infidelity, arguments, or they might even move away from you slowly.
Speak with a counsellor
Talking to a counselor is better than arguing over the smallest problems. Each side can be heard and you won’t have to worry about this type of communication blowing up into an argument. The counsellor will be able to go over some of the progress is gaining as a couple and things may get better then they were before.