The Enthusiast and The Challenger and The Peacemaker
The life of the party and the ever omnipresent voice of excitement – you have got to love them for their multitalented, multifaceted nature.
This section talks about:
⦁ What an enthusiast is all about
⦁ Why are enthusiasts good to have around
⦁ What is most difficult about enthusiasts
⦁ Dealing with them and bringing out the best
⦁ Who they get along with
⦁ Who they don’t along with
They get bored easily and may speed ahead without you. Are you up to the challenge on keeping up with an enthusiast? Let’s race!
They will be the person shouting in your ear or they may be someone who will push you to greater heights. Such is the role of a challenger who will never back down on a fight… or let you back down from one!
We will talks about:
⦁ What a challenger is all about
⦁ Why are challengers good to have around
⦁ What is most difficult about challengers
⦁ Dealing with them and bringing out the best
⦁ Who they get along with
⦁ Who they don’t along with
Their anger is a force to be reckoned with! But they will always be the strong one. You got to love them because of their strengths for without them, no one will get anything done…
Love. Peace. Serenity. Stillness. Peace lovers. Shhhh… keep the quietness otherwise it will shake them up!
This chapter talks about:
⦁ What a peacemaker is all about
⦁ Why are peacemakers good to have around
⦁ What is most difficult about peacemakers
⦁ Dealing with them and bringing out the best
⦁ Who they get along with
⦁ Who they don’t along with
Like a firm rock, they will not be moved, yet they are the most loving friends to have around! Learn to love them, cherish them and feel the serenity around them! Truly a good friend to have indeed!
The Last 3
The enthusiast is an exciting person to be around with. They are always constantly seeking excitement, pleasure and a way to distract them from the mundane everyday life.
They are constantly living in a bright future – anticipating the fun and excitement that will come out of it and can’t wait to get there, bring the fun and excitement with other people along.
They are creative, multi talented and open minded. They are also unbridled and deny any form of self-denial or delayed gratification.
Natural born promoters, they often do not focus on one thing for long and moves on to the next most exciting thing. They especially love the spotlight being shined upon them.
These enthusiasts love doing stuff – anything that engages their senses full on really turns them on… even the thought of doing it later! This is a very good motivating factor when they need to rile up a dead group of people who are emotionally dull. There’s never a dull moment with enthusiasts around.
Their zeal to experience life is huge – often engaging themselves 100% in a task to feel it to the maximum. Such a kind of enthusiasm of life is so contagious that it even inspires other people!
They are also very practical people who have lots of skills and love to do all kinds of things.
The sad thing about enthusiasts is that their attention span is like a flash in a pan. The moment they get bored, they will abandon the project.
They get bored really easily because they hate that the most. They also have the temptation of moving too fast, often abandoning the things they are supposed to do in the process or spreading themselves too thinly.
Their biggest vice is that they want everything – everything they set their eyes on in the worst form of gluttony.
The worst part is, their self centered nature gives them a great deal of entitlement (of fun perhaps…) and they have a hard time focusing on other people because of that.
How To Deal With Them
Self-preserving enthusiasts will do whatever they feel is fun (an example would be indulging in video games for prolonged hours). The only way to distract them from the fun is to give them something else more fun because they will not tell you why they like something.
Sexual enthusiasts must be with exciting partners – perhaps traveling the world or engaging in constant fun activities. If you keep him or her at home, it will be a relationship suicide.
The social type will like to go to a lot of parties often or be in the limelight for challenges – this will make them feel whole.
They work very well with investigators (type 5) because they will do all the thinking for them (and attend to details when they plan to do something fun…) and they hate being around reformers (type 1) who they believe are fun killers.
A challenger doesn’t want to be controlled. Full stop.
They consider themselves and only themselves to be the master of their own fate – having full autonomy to live their lives. Extremely tough minded people, they will keep on pushing themselves to great extremes in order to get the best results even if they are only challenging themselves.
Since their instincts are so strong, they often have strong physical appetites to get exactly whatever result they want out from life. Often they also hate working for others, choosing to work for themselves.
They are also people who tend to be financially independent or capable. They don’t like people to see them as a weak person.
Highly noble and upright, they will do whatever it takes to show themselves as the source of strength and protect the weak. You can definitely count on them to get things done easily – often without relying on the help of others.
Having the holy idea of truth, they will never surrender or compromise even under temptation to get something in exchange for falsehood.
These people are not petty – they will show their strengths and will not be concerned for the pettiness of those weaker than them in terms of what they think about him because he or she will always want to appear to be a magnanimous to others.
Challengers get angry easily and will easily take revenge on someone who wrongs them.
In other words, their form of vengeance can often include working harder to prove them wrong, make more money to hide their weakness, counter their falsehood or just become stronger.
They fear loss of control so greatly that they become tyrants in the process. Lust for all things is common for the challenger because of strong cravings and desires.
How To Deal With Them
Self preserving challenges live in their own personal battlefield where their greatest enemy to challenge is always themselves. Don’t ask them why they want to challenge anything – they will do it regardless of whatever people think and we can only let them grow when they get more results.
Sexual challengers are very difficult to live with because they either always want to challenge or change their partners or they will vent out lots of frustration against weaker people to their mates. A mate must be very strong and have huge emotional reservoirs – showing lots of patience at the same time.
Social challengers will sometimes challenge people on a higher level or in public. Don’t get into a fight with them because they will have no problems fighting (even physically) in broad daylight.
They work very well with helpers (type 2) because they like people helping them and they hate being around investigators (type 5) who they think are too slow to get anything done with their overly analytical attitudes.
Peacemakers love peace of course – and they will do whatever it takes to maintain it at all costs. Incredibly introverted, they often seen laid back, as though they are not fully present in whatever they are engaged in.
They tend to be very optimistic in life believing that somehow, everything will work out in the end whatever may come. They make very warm and attentive friends.
Because they are afraid of conflict, they often are resistant to any forms of changes that will bring up these unpleasant feelings of tension. They are less hesitant to express their anger outwardly compared to the challenger or the reformer.
Because they are such loving, supportive people, they tend to make the best parents or become your warmest friends whenever you need someone to talk to.
Never hot headed, their supportive nature brings a sense of calmness and peace to all around them. Their laid back nature dissolves any feelings of unpleasantness compared to other confrontational types. They are people of serenity.
You get a lot of peace of mind by just being around them.
It is almost impossible to coerce these people against their will as they often turn out to be one of the most stubborn people around. Indolent and unmoving, they tend to forget about themselves.
Deep down inside, they don’t like to be bossed around and on the surface, they might appear to be pleasing and compliant, giving in to your every demand, they are actually harboring a deep seated grudge that when accumulated over a long time, will result in explosive rage or passive-aggressive behavioral manifestations.
Sometimes, they are too easy going and they don’t have a care in the world.
Their tendency to overlook conflict can also have an adverse effect on human relations, especially during the times when results affect the most.
How To Deal With Them
Don’t boss them around. Let them know that the best peace and harmony they can get with other people is to make the choices that best support this.
Self-preserving peacemakers may seem very disconnected, but just do what you can to support their peaceful surroundings.
Sexual peacemakers love the intimacy of a calm and serene relationship and try not to cause conflict with them which will cause them to clam up completely.
Social peacemakers are a very interesting type. They like being around people that give them a community and a sense of peacefulness – serving and pleasing others. Putting these type of people in a non-intrusive, safe environment helps them to be themselves. That way, it will subdue their fear of feeling losing something or being annihilated.
They work very well with achievers (type 3) because they like who will motivate them and sell them a beautiful dream and they hate being around loyalists (type 6) who they think are different from the way they think about people.
We are all different! You know you do not have to be a rocket scientist to know this. However, when it comes to dealing with the people who do not have the same personality like yours, how would you react?
Just because you have been a joker, it does not mean you can make a CEO of a multi-national company laughs. Just because you are passionate about people, it does not mean your boss thinks the same way like you do. Just because you do not want to hurt your best friend, it does not mean you should withhold the unpleasant information (being cheated by the boyfriend) from her.
When I was working in a jewelry company, I had no idea what was wrong with my boss that he kept pushing the limit of his employers to work overtime. When that happened, some of the staffs start mumbling and complaining about not having enough time to spend with their families or loved ones. To these staffs, relationships with their loved ones mean a lot to them.
On the other hand, my boss had a totally different idea about the entire incident. There was only one thing in his mind – delivering the promise, best products and excellent service to his big client. It is not difficult to understand why he kept pushing the staffs to the limit. No matter what it takes, his priority to keep his business staying at the top in the industry.
It took me a while to understand this.
Here, you will learn and understand much more about the different types of personalities. While everyone is unique, you can generally group them into 9 types: Controller, promoter, analyzer, supporter, controller/analyzer, promoter/controller, promoter supporter, supporter analyzer and centric.
Don’t worry if you do not know what these terms mean. As you journey together with this e-book, you are going to get acquainted with these personalities and your benefit?
Understand them better and know how to deal with them effectively.
Each personality type will be discussed in their areas of attributes, strengths, weaknesses and the right way to deal with them.
The Controller, Promoter and Analyzer
Do you have what it takes to be a controller? What does it mean to have the controller mindset and conduct? Don’t be scared by the term of controller. As you learn their attributes in this chapter, you are going to be equipped to deal with them effectively.
This section talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Controller Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Controller?
Not all of us like the terms of controllers but you will learn exactly why you need these controllers on earth to make the world a better place to be.
Have you got friends who are extremely expressive? They will shout all of a sudden, and they tend to be the most creative persons you could possibly find on earth. They are the promoters!
We will talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Promoter Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Promoter?It is usually fun to hav
e a promoter in the group because they are the ones who entertain us the most. Sounds good, but this will also mean some people are going to be irritated simply because of their expressive actions.
Have you ever met someone who throws a million questions before he steps his foot on a boat? If you haven’t but you have faced the similar scenario above, you have just had your experience with an analyzer.
This chapter talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Analyzer Personality
⦁ How to Deal With an Analyzer?
Analyzers are usually slow and secure. You will learn exactly why from the information I am going to share with you starting from the next page.
The First 3
A controller is usually someone who takes initiative in doing things naturally. They are the ones who have no problems with decision making. These people appear to be strong-willed, confident, capable and efficient.
When controllers are hanging out with their friends, they will come out with ideas of the activities. They will decide where the places will be and who will be in-charge of a certain task. When a controller is running his own company, he knows exactly which direction to head to. In a family, if a husband is a controller, the wife and children will not need to worry about a thing simply because the husband has already made all the decisions.
This group of people is very task-oriented. Whenever a task is given to them, you can be sure they are in good hands and know they will get it done on time. Their motto is this – no matter what it takes, it has to be done.
How about the sensitive side of them? Well, if you are a lady and looking for a new age sensitive guy, controllers are going to disappoint you.
Controllers appear to be insensitive and emotions will not normally affect them in any way. While some of your friends may not even dare
to confront you of your wrongdoings, these people have no problems with it comes to confrontation.
There are tons of ways, really but for the purpose of this e-book, I will share few practical points so that you can use them in time of need.
Be Submissive: Submission basically means to obey and do what your superior asks you to do (within the legal boundaries). Digging deeper, submission is more than just obedience and conduct. If you think about it, submission comes when there is disagreement. Even when there are times you do not agree with your boss’ idea, you will still have to submit to him. If you never know, bosses favor those subordinates who submit to them rather than those who are against them.
Know What Is Best For Them: This can be easier for you now as you already know what they have in mind already – results. So whenever you work with them, you must work for their best interests.
I know we mentioned about submission in the previous points but will it be possible for your boss to implement the ideas you have in mind? The answer is a very resounding yes! It is when your idea is perceived to be much more workable, effective and practical than your boss’ idea.
When he knows your ideas will help him to achieve the goals (which is to make bucket loads of money, branding or involves in charity) of the company, he will have no problems saying ‘yes’ to your proposed ideas. It is simply for the good of the company.
Many people on earth out there find it difficult to work with or for those who have the controller personality. Well, things change when you know what they think and what matters to them. When you do, unity and harmony sets in.
Have you ever wondered why some of your colleagues gain favors from your superiors? They just know how to make their bosses happy. Even though most of the examples above are illustrated in the context of an employment, you will find controllers among your friends and family as well. I believe you are able to identify them from now on.
Although controllers are the ones who make decisions for the group or organizations, they may not be the ones who get the most attention at the time. The moment the planning part is done, the controllers’ job is also done.
On the other hand, promoter may capture the attention of the public very easily simply because of their promoting nature. They are expressive, keep the crowd entertained, come out with the jokes spontaneously and capture the attention of the people who are present. The things that they say do not even need to make sense.
They appear to be happy, active, outgoing and friendly. Some may even wonder why they can talk and express so well and at the same time, a minority will find him irritating. People generally love to have promoters around because they are not boring and personable.
Who are the examples of a promoter?
⦁ The Mask (acted by Jim Carrey)
⦁ Buddy Love from the Nutty Professor Movie
⦁ Shrek’s Donkey
Yeah I know they are all fictional characters but I am sure you are able to tell who have got the promoter’s attributes among the people around you.
There is always a way to tame the monkey, if you know how. Well, perhaps not so much of taming them but if you know the tricks, it is going to help you to get along with the promoters pretty well. By ‘pretty well’, I mean the moment can be shared and enjoyed by the both parties.
Provide Solution to Them: You would not want to hand the job over to an impulsive person when it comes to problem solving. Promoters may not be the best source to solve problems, they are definitely great help when it comes to implementation of the plan. You will be amazed with how fun the journey can be with the promoters around.
They Want Recognition: The best way to motivate promoters is to give them recognition. They love to be recognized of the contribution they have invested. For instance, if you compliment Dennis (a promoter) for doing a great job in front of the crowd, he is going to remember this for a long time and the best part is, he will want to work with you again and again.
Protect Their Ego: Be extra careful when dealing with them. They are super sensitive with their ego and you have got to try your very best to protect their ego. The best place to confront them is usually when nobody else is around. Do it sincerely and honestly.
Share Interpersonal Feelings with Them: If you can find ways to have a heart to heart talk to them, it will be great. Even most of them are jokes, they also enjoy this kind of deep conversation with their peers. Even though they are always expressive, they know what to let out and what not. Hence, your secrets are always safe with them.
The bottom line is this. Promoters must be allowed space to express themselves. Sometimes they are very difficult to understand and nevertheless, they make the journey much more fun and enjoyable. Eliminate essential decision making process from them. They are not born for it. However, involve them in the implementation and they will make it a pleasant one.
The analyzers are very feeling-based. Most of the time, they make decision based on their feelings on security. If there is any sense of insecurity, the process will take even longer, simply because they need to gather more data for themselves or the situations.
Data and analysis are extremely important to this group of people. When problem arises, they will take time to study, gather data and analyze the situation with whatever resources available. Not only data and facts, opinions and thoughts of the people involved are also essential to them.
Normally analyzers appear to be very academic and tend to be very serious when it comes to working environment. Their conversation maybe based on facts, histories or past illustrations.
Some people may find talking to them boring and at the same time, things that are coming out from their mouth are good to be used for advice.
One of the common examples would include middle-aged staffs that have little interests in the culture change, especially in the company. They are comfortable with where they currently are and risk is just not something they would want on their way. They can be secure yet stubborn.
Dealing with an analyzer may require some skills. Always remember, all they want is just security and data. When you have these two things with you, you can’t go wrong with an analyzer.
Here are a few more practical ways…
Use Their Ability to Build Friendship: In case you do not know, analyzers tend to use their ability to gain attention or build friendship, rather than their genuine self. If you can provide an environment to meet friends or build relationships with others through their ability (probably working on a big project together), things are going to be better for them.
Encourage Them to be Less Critical: Yes, they are critical definitely but you can also ease their critics by assuring them it is time to implement the strategies and there is no need to worry about the errors that are going to happen. Spend more effort to convince and encourage them.
Tell Them Things That They Do Not Know: Especially when you are in the meeting, things that they already know will only irritate them if you repeat. When you provide them the useful information which they need to help in solving the problems, you will gain their favor easily.
Those are the attributes of an analyzer and I can’t stress this point enough – it is all about security and data.
The Supporter, Promoter/Supporter and Promoter/Controller
You have probably seen supporters all around you. When you are emotionally weak, they are usually the ones you would want to go to. They are the people person and we call them the supporters.
This section talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Supporter Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Supporter?
Not only there are promoters and supporters on earth. Some people have the mixed personality that comes with promoter as well as supporters. We call it the promoter/supporter personality.
We will talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Promoter/Supporter Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Promoter/Supporter?
Have you seen people who have been bragging about their own success and no joke, they are really successful? This is one of the examples of promoter/controller.
⦁ The Attributes of the Promoter/Controller Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Promoter/Controller?
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Supporters are usually likable and very people-oriented. For promoters, people enjoy a promoter’s presence solely because of his ability to entertain. However, people place their trusts on the supporters mainly because of their ability to care, encourage and support.
This is why, when you break up with your boyfriend of 10 years, you wouldn’t want to go to a controller or analyzer, but a supporter for comfort.
Since it is their nature to be people-oriented, they tend to avoid personal conflicts in any way possible; even it means to cost the innocence of themselves. It will be really difficult for them to reject people and they will please anyone who comes on their ways (and of course, I am not talking about the criminal kind of demand).
They are also very responsive to people. When people are around, they will usually blend in to the conversation and go with the flow. They let others to initiate any kinds of activities and yet they do not have the interest to impress others.
This is the species that appear to be harmless and non-threatening. Even when they are threatened, they will not make it to the public and some of them suppress their feelings to the point of depression, which is not good at all.
Thus far, supporters appear to be the nice and easy kind of person to go to. In fact, it is dangerous to have this kind of mindset because supporters also appear to be a time bomb which does not give you an idea when it is going to explode.
Why is that?
The burdens they carry for others may become a heavy and it is not uncommon to find the nicest person who always listens to you and pleases you has depression. This may even be the case without any of our acknowledgement.
Don’t Push Them Too Hard: Now that you know they will say ‘yes’ to almost anything you ask of them and it is not a good idea to push them to the limit and take them for granted. Remember, they are human beings too.
Be Grateful to Them: Even though recognition or rewards may not be the things they are looking for, it would be nice to give them encouragement and a pat on their shoulder for the things they have done for you. Remember the times when he was there when you were totally down? This is how you can payback.
Help Them to Stand Up For Themselves: I know it is abnormal for the supporters to express what is in their hearts but nevertheless you can encourage them to do so. They have the rights to voice out their opinions too. Since it is not nature to them, you can push them a little bit to protect themselves in the future.
Now that you know the reasons behind the supporters are being emotional and people-oriented. Just bear in your mind when you are dealing with them you need to acknowledge them for what they have done for courtesy’s sake and never ever take them for granted.
Basically, the promoter/supporter personality is the mixture of promoter and supporter personalities. A promoter may be fun to hang out with but it does not mean he has genuine friendships at all. The same goes to a supporter – one does not need to capture the attention of the crowd in order to have a lot of genuine friendships.
What happens to the promoter/supporter personality then? It is simply referring to a person who is very expressive in things that he does and at the same time, he values the relationships and people around him.
This kind of people uses their charisma to build relationships with the people around him. Even though they appear to be the star in the crowd, relationships with people is definitely a big thing to him.
While promoters may only value their own opinions, in the promoter/supporter personality, a person values both his own and the ideas of others. This kind of people can be more appealing simply because of the hidden strength they have.
I would say the promoter/supporter personality is in those who like to hang out without much seriousness in a tensed environment. Artists, designers, freelancers or clowns may have this kind of personality.
How do you deal with them, then?
Esteem Them in Public: You need to esteem them in the public for the things they have done and contributed. They enjoyed being recognized and nevertheless they are also the supporters. They must have helped the people around them in one way or another.
Let Them Develop Genuine Friendships: Even though they appear to be charismatic, I suppose they are afraid of being lonely. This is probably one of the hidden secrets that come with the promoter/supporter.
Work Best in a Group: In case you are to assign them to work, let them work in a group. They love to laugh and at the same time, they love people. Working in a group can help them to develop close relationships with his peers and in turn this will also make the workplace a great place to be.
Now that you have met the promoter/supporter, can you identify any of your friends who belong to this group?
A person with promoter/controller personality is normally expressive in an aggressive way. Unlike promoter/supporter, relationships may not matter to them but success and sense of achievement can be a really big thing to them.
Now, a controller may be achieving great success but still remains a low profile. I personally know a person who has been declared bankruptcy and yet he owns a company that makes millions of dollars in profit yearly. On the other hand, promoter/controller can be achieving great success at the same time, but the fact that he is rich and successful is made known to all over the world.
This group of people love challenges and always strives to win. Not just to win, but to win with flying colors. It is not quite common for them to stay in the same position for long. They need to jump from one place to another. Stagnancy will just bore them and they chase their goals and dreams with intensity.
In terms of conversations, they are the ones who dominate. People listen to them the moment they speak and their voices turn out to be clearly visible. In addition, speeches that they make will usually carry much weight.
Probably by now, you would not want to work under a boss who has a promoter/controller personality. Or perhaps, you want to be a promoter/controller. Either way is totally fine.
Here is how you can deal with them…
Contribute Ideas Based on Their Interests: If you are given a chance to contribute ideas to a promoter/controller, you must do it right. Not to mention you do not get many chances to speak to them, things that you say to them must contribute to help them achieve their goals and dreams.
Esteem Their Success: Yes, promoters/controllers can be very egoistic at times. One thing you can do to make them happy if to esteem their success. Celebrate their success and tell them that they have done a good job. If the compliment if given in front of a big crowd, it is even better. The surely want to be recognized of their success.
Involve Them to Work in Groups: If it is possible, try to get them to work in groups. Their pace of working may not be pleasant while working with the rest of the group members, but it is a good way to allow them to learn to journey together with the team, rather than just having to walk alone.
In short, promoters/controllers are the ones who get things done effectively with the intention of being recognized for their achievements. When you understand this, you know why they behave in such a way.
The Controller/Analyzer , Analyzer/Supporter and Centric
It is truly a combination of both controller and analyzer personalities. This kind of personality appears to be distant and people find it hard to gain access to their lives.
This section talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Controller/Analyzer Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Controller/Analyzer?
Now you have a mixture of analyzer and supporter’s personalities. We call them the analyzer/supporter personality.
We will talks about:
⦁ The Attributes of the Analyzer/Supporter Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Analyzer/Supporter?
Do you believe there are people who have all of the personalities discussed in this e-book? These people have what we call the centric personality.
⦁ The Attributes of the Centric Personality
⦁ How to Deal With a Centric?
The first thing that comes to my mind in relation to the controller/analyzer personality is this – they are stiff! I am not sure if it is the right word to describe them but to me, they are probably the last person on earth I would want to hang out with. Unless it is required, there will be no way I’d want to meet them.
Anyway, let’s talk about the controllers/analyzers. They are efficient and business-minded. Apart from getting desired results, they are also keen in gathering information. Even sometimes the implementation of the plan may take much longer than required, nevertheless the probability of the success is almost guaranteed.
This group of people is not so good in placing their trusts on others. They can be very critical and judgmental to the point that they only place their trusts on the people who have been working effectively for them in the past. Any first timers will have to perform extremely well in order to gain the initial favor of the controllers/analyzers.
Needless to say, they are very task-oriented. They are not driven by emotions and often very rational when it comes to making decisions. They are calm and steady even the biggest obstacles set in. No matter what, they will get it done.
Finally, it is normal to them so scan through the situation or a person who is in front of them. They will generate all kinds of perceptions, data and judgment on the situations and person, causing the person especially to panic easily.
Controllers/analyzers appear to be serious and boring. How do you deal with them, then?
Provide Detailed Blueprint: Forget about telling them about Justin Bieber’s concert is coming. They just want to know what you have to offer to help them achieve their goals and what are the steps they need to take to bring their goals to pass.
Extra Effort to Minimize Errors: When you are working with them, you need to pay careful attention to details and give more than 100% of your energy. You can’t possibly allow any margins for errors and to controllers/analyzers, errors will cost them a lot of resources. So be careful.
Efficiency: All they want is efficiency. If you can make use of the resources available, you are getting their attention and they would want to involve you to work as a part of their team.
Although I personally find it difficult to deal with controllers/analyzers, I am not suggesting this is the case for everyone. I believe the world needs controllers/analyzers to direct and implement the strategies for making the world a better place for everyone.
The group of analyzers/supporters is rather interesting. Even relationships may matter to them, they will always struggle to develop genuine friendships simply because of their analyzer nature as well.
For instance, they may long for friendships and at the same time, they are also critical when it comes to choosing the right friends.
As a result, they rarely initiate conversations in interpersonal situations. They will usually wait for others to approach them or let others to voice out their opinions before they speak their very first word in the conversation.
They can be of very good support yet analytical. Time is needed for them to place their trust fully on a person.
Analyzers are usually slower before they make decisions on the matters. Hence, some of the best ways are to give them more space to develop friendships.
Make Use of Good Testimonials: When you are talking to an analyzer/supporter, they can easily take the things you said about another person to their hearts. So when the next time an analyzer/supporter meets the person you mentioned to him in the past, he will have a brief idea of how good or bad the person can be. He may either be defensive or open to the friendship, based on the testimonials you said. So you must be careful with the words you use to talk about other people in front of the analyzers/supporters.
Give Them More Space to Develop Friendship: Certain things in life just can’t be forced. For the analyzers/supporters, even though they may long for sincere friendships, you need to give them more space to develop this kind of relationships.
Analyzers/Supporters can be understood easily when you know what is going on around them. Always remember, they are a bit slow when it comes to develop friendships so you just need to go with their pace.
Now, I would say the people with the centric personality are almost perfect. They use the right approach to communicate, depending on who they are talking to. When they are talking to controllers, they switch their mode to relate to the controllers. When people come to them for support, they become compassionate with the feelings of the broken-hearted.
Isn’t it amazing if we have the centric personality?
Even they are strong-willed, they do not appear to be manipulative. Even when they are supporting, they do not try to withhold unpleasant information from the intended person. In fact, they choose the correct way to deliver the bad news to the person.
In the working environment, they can probably get along well with both superiors and also subordinates. Bosses love them and staffs are happy to work under them.
Seriously, they appear to be flawless and people with centric personality are usually the most charismatic leaders you could possibly find on earth.
Seriously, you just need to be yourself. Let the centric read your mind and do his wonders while talking to you. Of course, there are also certain things you can do to make them feel better. Here are some of them…
Honesty: Have you ever heard of the saying that goes, “Honesty is the best policy”? If you have been thinking to use the right approach and words to impress the centric, let me suggest that there will be no such need for it. They know exactly what you are thinking the moment they start talking to you. So just be honest to them.
Understand They Are Different at Times: Don’t be surprised if you see the different sides of the centric. It is just in them. They can be expressive this hour, and they can be very controlling and analytic during meetings.
Learn from Them: If you are able to, please learn from them because the world need more people like them to help make the world an awesome place to be. If you are able to adapt some of their ways of handling things, you are going to be different!
Centric appears to have no character flaws but this is not true. Nobody is born perfect under the sun. The trick about centric is that, they just know how to play the game. So if you want to have a centric personality, this chapter is definitely here to help.
A Quick Look At Polarities
Becoming a light-worker or dark-worker isn’t something that simply occurs. It’s a witting choice, one the huge bulk of individuals never arrive at.
You might have leanings toward one polarity or the other, and you may certainly experiment with both polarities as much as you want, but becoming a light-worker or dark-worker signifies making a particular commitment to command of a single polarity.
When you choose to polarize, you’re building a commitment to living a particular sort of life. It’s like arriving at a commitment to a specific field that takes years to master, like preparation for the Olympic Games, becoming a musician, or becoming a chess master.
You aren’t simply going to rouse one day to find that … yup… you’re a black belt, nor will you abruptly wake up and recognize you’re a light- worker or a dark-worker. Polarizing as a light-worker or dark-worker is a vast long-term dedication. It doesn’t simply occur by itself instantly from insight.
The determination to polarize is a determination you make with every fiber of your being. For a few individuals it might be an innate choice, felt as a sort of calling. Other people must spend much time exploring both polarities to make the polarization dedication really consciously and deliberately. But most individuals never polarize.
If you polarize as a light-worker, you’re committing your life to assisting the greater good. If you polarize as a dark-worker, you’re committing your life to assisting yourself.
It ought to be sort of obvious that most individuals never make this sort of commitment in their whole lives. Therefore, most individuals are neither lightworkers nor dark-workers. The 2 extremes of dedicating one’s life to assisting the greater good or to assisting one’s own self-concern are not attractive to most individuals. It’s merely not for them.
Following polarizing, your polarity becomes the key focus of your life. You live and breathe it daily. It virtually gets to be part of your DNA. It’s unimaginable to compartmentalize such a dedication. You can’t work at a lowly job and do light-working or dark-working unofficially. That’s like trying to be President of the United States “unofficially”. Being a light-worker or dark-worker is a 24/7 thing, all year. It’s who you are, not simply what you do.
Those who haven’t polarized are free to feel both polarities, however at a much lower level of strength than either a light-worker or dark- worker may. As a matter of fact, it’s of great advantage to explore both polarities and comprehend how they work.
If you’re a light-worker or dark-worker, you’ll have no question about it. That’s by definition. If you’ve any question about it, you haven’t polarized. This is as primary a matter as recognizing you’re a black belt in a particular martial art. If you have to question, you’re not a black belt.
The rationality for polarizing is because you’re prepared to make a witting dedication to a particular sort of life. You’re wishing to dedicate your whole being either to assisting the greater good or to assisting yourself. That dedication becomes your life intention. It becomes the very center of your identity. You’re stating to the cosmos, “That’s who I am.”
When you make this dedication, you’ll know yourself in a way you’ve never known yourself previously. You’ll wake up daily recognizing why you’re here, not because somebody told you why, but as you’ve specified your own why with the power of conscious choice. Each moment of each day, you’ll recognize whom you are and what you’re here to accomplish.
Polarization brings a fresh level of strength, drive, and motivation. Troubles and obstacles that previously would have overrun you will appear like pettiness. Once you set a goal that lines up with your polarity, you’ll recognize — not wish – it will be achieved.
Acting replaces attempting. Therefore, you’ll expand the scope of your goals to equal your strength. You’ll likewise greatly expand your timeline for considering the outcomes of your choices, thinking ten, twenty, many years ahead as a foregone conclusion. Short-term follies will be substituted by long-term allegiances.
There are levels of polarization. The more polarized you get, the more you tap into your richest degrees of inner power. Whether you’re a dark-worker or a light-worker, your origin of force is always found inside.
It isn’t a sort of means or positional power. You may be deprived of all your worldly titles and possessions and yet feel even as secure. As a light-worker, your power flows outward. As a dark-worker, your power flows inward. The origin of this flow is always within you — based inside your consciousness — and your polarity regulates the flow’s direction.
If you don’t wish to polarize, don’t. You’re free to go along utilizing both polarities if you so decide. Simply be aware that you may never expect to surmount either polarity unless you dedicate to one or the other.
Put differently, if you don’t polarize, you’ll forever live with the knowledge that you lived far beneath your potential in terms of your power to assist others or to assist yourself. Your assistance to the world as well as your assistance to yourself will be average at best compared to what you may have accomplished had you polarized. This ought to be sort of obvious. Once you polarize, you’re making a solid dedication, and when you’re really dedicated to something, you’ll invest a lot more time and energy into your quests than you would differently.
Polarization is a particular sort of dedication, like dedicating to mastery of a particular field like music, artistry, medicine, or computer programming. Most individuals never make such a big dedication. But you can’t hope to control anything unless you dedicate to mastery of one thing.
Control is a procedure, not a place. Control is when you turn a want into a downright must. For light-workers and dark workers, these dedications are attained for different reasons.
However, in either case, a witting conclusion is made to devote one’s time, power, resources, and talents to the selected role with an elevated degree of intensity. That strength of focus is possibly what most distinguishes somebody who’s polarized.
Self Discovery — Wrapping Up
Now that you know who you are – it is time to live life authentically!
Don’t beat yourself up because you don’t like your ‘type’. You are all you’ve got so treat your life with care. If you do not live it authentically, you will only be living a half cooked life because that is not who you are!
Enjoy the journey of self discover and share this with others!
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