Meet In A Public Place For The 1st Date
Meeting in a public place for the 1st date is very important. You never want to meet them at their home, in a secluded area, at a hotel, in an empty street, or in the car. These are the worst places to meet with your date.
You should already know there are many bad people out there who are looking to take advantage of others. Crime rates are going up these days, despite our law enforcement stepping up to help innocent people.
You could easily put yourself in a situation where you could face being robbed or even raped. Practically anyone can sign up on a computer to create a dating profile online. They don’t even need to have their own computer. Some people will visit libraries and go on there to access dating websites or just use their friends laptop.
This is why it’s very important to meet in person at a local restaurant or just go to the nearest mall. We aren’t talking about meeting outside or at the back of the mall in a parking lot. You need to be inside when meeting. If you have friends and just want to be safe, why not suggest a double date? Group activities are very fun and the two of you will have a good time. Also, by going in a group – all of you will be safe.
There was a recent incident in the news where one lady had met up with a man she was talking to for a month. They decided to meet in front of his house but this wasn’t his house at all. It was an abandoned place that was being rented out. Before she even had time to leave, the man had opened her car and demanded her money at gun point. When the woman refused, she was stabbed several times and thrown out of the car.
Incidents like this are very rare but there are times you may come close to dating someone who doesn’t have morals or you could very well be talking to a serial killer. This is why you want to meet in a crowded place or inside a restaurant at least. If the employees notice anyone in danger, they’ll phone the police right away. After all, they want to protect the people in their place of business.
Some dates are highly aggressive and you can see warning flags while you are on the date.
We suggest that before you keep going with the date, to leave immediately. Let them know you have a family emergency and tell them you’ll talk to them again later. You want to leave as quickly as possible without being confronted. Later, you can let them know the real reason why you left and ignore them. This may seem harsh, but you want to watch out for people who will take advantage of you emotionally, physically, or financially.
The best places to meet are at large market places, right inside the mall, at a Starbucks building, at a fair, inside a busy restaurant, or at a beach boardwalk where there are many people. When searching for a place to meet, make sure the area is crowded. If you chose a place that is remote, you could very well set yourself up for disaster so we strongly urge you to do this.
Understand The Risks
There are many risks when it comes to dating. In fact, many of you have probably given up with the dating game. People don’t say who they really are and will often hide their bad side. Others aren’t as interested as you thought they were, after you were thinking they would be the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend. In another instance, you could be dating someone who had long criminal background and recently found out.
Here are some of the risks you need to understand when you are in the dating game:
Risk #1 – Facing Liars
There are many people who lie about the most simple things. When you are dating, you will meet plenty of people who will lie to you. You can ask if they are married all you want and the only answer they’ll give you is no, while their wife is waiting for them to get home. You always wondered why they seemed in a hurry. Maybe you are dating someone who isn’t truthful about what they do at their job. They may feel ashamed and alter their story but it is somewhat similar to their job experience.
Other lies may include answers regarding their personality and how they act towards others. You want to be with someone who is kind to everyone and although she might seem like a nice girl, behind closed doors she is not. She is one of those woman who constantly screams at employees, her own family, and even her kids.
Imagine if you were with her in a relationship. You could ask her if she has anger problems and she’ll bat her lashes and just say no. By the time you are with her, it will be too late. Stay away from people who lie. You can usually tell with a few red flags and those are your warning signs so pay attention to them.
Risk #2 – Becoming Hurt
Becoming hurt in a relationship or on a date is just a part of the dating game. You need to hold your head and be strong, no matter what happens. For example, if you recently got all dressed up for your date and know you look beautiful – you’ll want to go out right away. You are excited to meet your date and have no idea how it will go.
However, when you are on the date you don’t get any compliments. In fact, the guy who was interested in you is now a totally different person. He calmly explains that you are not his type and he isn’t interested in dating you. You can’t believe how upfront this man is and you are absolutely shocked, with a hint of sadness beneath the surface.
Once you get home, you think twice about going out with anyone again. Obviously, you are disappointed and hurt at the same time. There are many instances where someone can hurt you while dating or even being in a new relationship. This is why you shouldn’t expect so much.
Risk #3 – Danger
As we discussed before, you should never be alone with a new date. Develop their trust over time. After the first five dates, it is perfectly fine to be alone. You want to get a vibe for their personality, habits, and the way they act around others. You can avoid danger by taking it slowly.
There is no reason for you to continue living life by yourself. Somewhere out in this world is a match for you so why would you want to rob yourself of this blessing. Even if you are shy or have been hurt before if you follow the tips written in the book you just read you are sure to have positive results when it comes to internet dating. Stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and find your soul mate!